You Know Your Life Is Changing When......

When you finally decide enough is enough, and you rediscover your passion, your purpose, and your inner fire...

It makes your soul sparkle and shine, and you so want to shout about all your new ideas from the rooftops...

Finally you are opening that door that you were always afraid to open, and you are taking those first hesitant steps towards a new future...

And you know that your life is just about to change.... for the better...

 

And you really want to share all the ideas, the plans, you're dreams and desires with those closet to you, your family, your friends, the postman, your neighbours, well pretty much anyone who will listen....

Makes sense right?

Well, here's what I've found, You very quickly come down to earth with a bang, a virtually slap around the face, by those you thought would be the ones to listen, the ones you thought would be happy for you, the ones you expect to have your back, no matter what!

Let me tell you right now, they ant, your friends, your family, well they don't even give you a half hearted smile, never mind a pat on the back, or a well done, nope instead they look at you, like you have suddenly grown two heads, like your a freak of nature, like you have completely lost your mind, never mind your marbles...

Instead they have nothing good to say to you, they find all the negative points, the potential dangers of what you want to do, the journey you want to take, they tell you what's the point, its too woo woo, they ask why are you even bothered!

After all it's not like your good at anything.. talk about bringing you out of your happiness bubble...

And now all you are left with is your tattered dreams, and a possible list of reasons of why it won't work... do they not know how hard you fought your own inner demons to even get to this place in time...

No, and the honest answer is they don't really care... harsh but true...

Instead they give you reasons why you can't, or you shouldn't....

"you'll end up as a witch if you do all this woo woo stuff"

"who is going to pay you to be their coach"

"It won't work, you've been a stay at home mum to long"

"Are you even qualified"

And so on...

I have heard it all, and more, thing is I am multi passionate, always have been, I am a dreamer, a soul searcher, a creative, I feel deeply, I love big, and I always let my heart lead me.

From a young age I have painted, created, written stories, played make believe in the woods, believed in fairies, magic, goodness and love.

I have worked in retail, worked as a teaching assistant, sole carer  as a nanny of 2 children, then in an elderly peoples care home, before becoming a full time mum aged 18, then a carer for my 3 of my children who have Autism and severe special needs.

This led me to creating a world where I could work around my children from home, creating handcrafted products, as an event & wedding planning where I planned several weddings, created handcrafted jewellery for brides, bridesmaids, and jewellery for pageants, and planned and collaborated on photoshoots.

As much as I loved being creative, my inner passion of giving back, of making a difference, of helping to guide others who had led a journey of trauma, heartbreak, loss, and isolation was becoming much more of a knocking, a fire within my belly, I couldn't ignore...

So after two huge personal losses, and heartbreak, I knew life was to short, and I trained as a life coach to pursue my passion, I am still continuing my education with NLP, CBT, Counselling, Crystal & Angel Therapy, because I fully believe that we need to work from the inside out...

Did my family or friends support me, believe in me... nope, instead I was on the receiving end of negative comments, bull headed conversations, harsh comparisons and doubts, from those I truly thought would have my back always...

So I asked myself... why do the ones we love and respect the most, not support us in our journey for better?

Why do they not get excited with us, for our new adventures...

Why do they not want to celebrate with us?

 

The truth is simple...

Fear, but of what?

they fear you will change as a person, of the unknown, of what you will become, of you not having as much time for them, that they will lose you...

Truth:

To a certain extent they will, as you grow, you will change, your thoughts, your patterns, your negative self talk...

You will become more confident, you will have more self love, and self belief, you will deeply know that this is your time to make your dreams happen...

The other truth:

This is not their journey...

It is yours... and one only you can do...

What I have discovered especially in this past 18 months, as I have been growing, and learning, is that you cannot live your life for other people, you cannot look to others for validation...

FEAR... affects us all in different ways, and we can only control us, our own emotions, our own reactions, we cannot control others, no matter how many times, we wish the outcome was different...

We have to respect that our friends, our family, have their own thoughts, feelings, and reactions to what we do... but we also have a choice to listen... and to give up on our dreams... or we can do it despite what they think, or feel...

Its a brave choice, but one I feel we each have the power to choose to make, we were not born to shine in the shadow of someone else's light....

We were born to learn, to grow, and to shine our own light, no matter what it looks like to someone else... our choices are that.. ours...

However it is important to know that the comments or reactions from family, or friends, are not intended to hurt you, they feel they are protecting you, it does not excuse their behaviour, but it can shed a little light on why they are acting the way they are, all you can do, is calmly explain your point of view, and let them know, despite their objections, that these are your dreams, your plans, and that your life is yours, to do with as you wish....

Change is one thing that happens to us all, as is life, and as is death, they are the 3 constants...and sometimes we have to learn that people, and situations are put in our path to learn from, to love with, and to grow through.

This is the logic I have lived by, sometimes I learnt it to late, and allowed myself to stay in toxic relationships, long past their sell by date.

Everything I have gone, through, and grown through, has led me to this point, the point of knowing what is important to me, my bigger picture, and finding a tribe who I can tell my dreams to, my soul sisters who understand

Who know my light shines, and don't try to dim it.

So if you do find yourself in this situation... I want you to know... you are not alone

I am always here with a listening ear, and an open heart.

in the meantime, here are a few tips to help:

1) Only share the briefest of details, don't go into every little detail, I know this is hard, but trust me for your own sanity, only share what you know will not have cold water poured onto it, no one but you can see, hat you can see, no one but you, knows your true potential.

2) Don't take their words, actions or reactions to heart, you know your journey, your heart, your soul, trust and believe in the power of you.

3) Stop looking to others for validation... look inwards, only you can validate you, choose to be your own hero, your own cheerleader, follow your own inner north star

4) Find a circle of soul sisters who share your values, your beliefs, soul sisters who will laugh with you, cry with you, and support your dreams, and desires for better

They are out there I promise, just like you, they want to share their ideas, they're inspiration, highs and lows, life lessons and curveballs.

If you can't find your on tribe, you are welcome to come join ours click the soul power queen image below.....

5) Remember you are a beacon of light, be proud of who you are, be proud of the dreams you want to bring to life, mostly remember you have the power within you, to do, to be, and to have anything your soul desires...

Hugs & Wishes

Lisa x

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